During the pandemic, phone sex has made a major comeback. People remembered why it got so big in the first place. Phone sex is so much fun that a lot of people wonder if they try it once, will it be a part of their relationship forever? Let’s talk about why the phone sex craze is back, how to incorporate it into your relationship, and why it’s so much fun.
Phone Sex Is Back
Phone sex is all the rage again, and now that it is, people have realized that phone sex wasn’t popular just because we didn’t have other options. Phone sex is an activity that some people prefer to video sex or even sexting. Why? First, it’s a great way to effectively connect despite long distances or pandemic-related lockdowns. Next, it’s a way to pump up your arousal by doing something new again.
The cultural obsession with threesomes is well-established as a way to add fire to a relationship. The reason it works is that it’s something new, not specifically because you’re adding another person. Before threesomes, the holy grail of sexual exploration was anal sex, then oral sex (specifically blow jobs), and before that, it was swinging. It changes a bit each generation, but the reason these sexual activities gain traction is that they break up your routine and force you out of your pattern. So, the people who say that phone sex has transformed their relationships are telling the truth.
Phone Sex for Couples
Yes, phone sex might be addictive for couples. But, culturally, we have two definitions of addictive. One definition of addictive is something we say colloquially, like the fact that Oreos are addictive. The other definition is an addiction where you make risky decisions that negatively impact all facets of your life. In most instances, phone sex has a positive impact on your relationship because you see your partner through a new lens, which can refresh the entire relationship. (Though, if you do think you are addicted to phone sex, it’s a good idea to reach out to someone for help—lots of effective treatments are available.)
Though not typically addictive, phone sex can be a game-changer for your sex life. The sounds of someone’s voice are incredibly erotic during phone sex. Plus, the fact that phone sex leaves so much to the imagination means that you have the freedom to be as creative as you’d like. Role-play over the phone has the potential to feel a lot more real than other types of virtual sex because you have to use your imagination to fill in the gaps right from the start.
Lastly, the idea that someone can’t see you is liberating rather than limiting for many people. Those with body insecurities, who don’t know their best camera angles, or who are camera-shy in general will be much more comfortable on the phone. The key to good sex lies in the psychological space between comfort and getting out of your comfort zone. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t be able to be yourself, and you’ll have sex that feels more performative than authentic. But if you’re comfortable and doing something new at the same time, you have a good chance of opening up new paths toward sexual pleasure.
Adding Someone New
Sometimes, couples are interested in trying a threesome, But, trying a threesome via the phone is a great way to play with the idea of a threesome before deciding whether or not you want to try it in-person. You can feel the sexual excitement of adding someone new without having the same level of jealousy since it’s a stranger on the phone.
Some websites allow you to find a third, completely anonymously for phone sex. If you’re ready to branch out, use a site that verifies all of its users’ ages and protects your privacy. There’s nothing more fun than experimentation, especially when it’s safe.